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She writes, and writes, and writes some more! She also tests your favorite beauty products, attends those glamorous Hollywood events that we all see in magazines, makes time for daily exercise, and is living her dreams. Isn’t this what we all want in life?!

Amanda Montell, author, editor, and beauty extraordinaire shares her story, her advice, and her desire to see body glitter make a come-back, in the interview below.

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Let’s start from the beginning. How did you know this was the industry you wanted to go in to?

I’ve known I wanted to be a writer since I was a freshman in college at NYU. I was certain I wanted to write books of nonfiction, but I also knew that wasn’t actually a job (until it somehow miraculously is). So I had to figure out what kind of real job I wanted.

I did a zillion internships—literary non-profits, print magazines, digital media start-ups. But writing online lifestyle content was the most fun—the people were the smartest, most hip, and friendliest—so that’s what I decided to pursue.

If we were to spend a day in your shoes (and we’d like to), what would that day look like?

At the beginning of August, I started a six-month leave of absence from Byrdie to write my book, WORDY: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language. I’m still freelance editing personal essays for Byrdie’s new vertical The Flipside, but right now, I’m working from home and dedicating 90% of my time to the book.

A typical day involves waking up to an hour of Pilates at Studio Elevate in Culver City (I never made time to exercise before going on book leave, so this is a big change). The rest of my day is spent sprawled out in my bedroom with my computer, combing through hundreds of scholarly linguistics papers, interviewing experts for the book, and writing until my brain hurts (intermixed with staring into space, telling myself I’m an imposter, and binge-watching episodes of Younger, of course).

I also still attend plenty of beauty events for Byrdie to remind myself my life was glamorous once—like today I just had a killer facial with celebrity esthetician Renée Rouleau. This lifestyle is totally different from my beauty editor life, which I actually documented in detail on Byrdie here.

What schooling or experience do feel was most instrumental to your success today?

I honestly think everything that’s worked out in my life is due to the sum of all the experiences I’ve had—not just one class or internship. College is where I learned about linguistics, which is the subject of my book. The internships are where I learned how to write for the internet, which led to my job at Byrdie. And involving myself in the literary and editorial industries of LA has introduced me to so many people who’ve helped me along the way. It’s all been important.

You’re writing a book right now. What inspired you to take that leap?

It’s been my dream for my entire adult life! I feel so lucky that a publisher is actually paying me to do it. It’s wild.

Have there been any unexpected challenges that you’ve had to face?

The process was shockingly smooth for me—everything happened to fall right into place! But I think what helped is that I said “yes” to a lot of suggestions early on that someone else might have declined. For example, I had written an entirely different book before WORDY was even a twinkle in my eye, but I totally scrapped it once I got on the phone with an agent who didn’t think it would sell. I was happy to start from scratch. At the beginning of your career, you have to be willing to be flexible sometimes.

Anyone working in a creative field knows what it’s like to hit a creative rut. What do you do when you need inspiration?

READ. Whenever I don’t know what to write, I just pick up a book by an author whose work is like a much, much better version of what I’m trying to do. That always fixes my brain block within minutes.

What do you love most about your job as a journalist?

Not to sound overly sentimental, but I consider being able to connect to people through words a legitimate honor. As a journalist, I’ve had the

chance to tell stories that might never have been told otherwise, and when they inspire an emotional reaction in a reader or make them think about something in a new way, that feels so, so satisfying. It’s magical.

Is there one accomplishment at this point in your career that you’re most proud of?

Back in 2015, my mentor and hero Jill Soloway, creator of the groundbreaking Amazonseries Transparent, read some of my work about gender and language and invited me to collaborate on a writing project. Getting to work with a writer I admire so unabashedly was absolutely surreal. I was 22 and so green, but I think I’ll probably always think of that experience as one of the proudest and dreamiest of my professional life.

What’s the best advice you’ve been given that you want to share with others?

Successful people are just regular people who never gave up.

As an Editor for Byrdie, what’s the greatest perk of the job?

I mean, I haven’t paid for a beauty product in years. Which is obviously insane and amazing. That said, the excess does get disturbing. The beauty industry can be so capitalistic and icky. But it can also be really empowering. It’s a big responsibility as someone who works in beauty to make sure you’re always working toward the latter.

What beauty trend are you most looking forward to this fall?

Hmm… maybe some more androgyny. Boys in nail polish. More girls with shaved heads. Hopefully some weird, Bowie-esque, rock-and-roll stuff to counteract all the dainty glosses and millennial pinks we’ve been seeing. I like those Milk tattoo stamps a lot. Would like to see more stuff like that.

What are your go-to beauty product staples?

Tatcha’s red lipstick and Glossier’s boy brow.

What is your favorite beauty trend of the past that you would love to see make a come-back?

Body glitter. I’m ready.

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If you never thought you’d hear the words “body glitter” again, you just did! And who’s excited?! We are!

All sparkle aside, Amanda is proof of the very quote that inspires her: “Successful people are just regular people who never gave up.” And she doesn’t. She just keeps going, she just keeps writing, and she just keeps pursuing. There’s no reason not to! We will see so much more from her, and we couldn’t be more excited about it!

Keep an eye out for her book, WORDY: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language, out in 2019. Until then, check out her work at Byrdie and The Flipside, and follow her gorgeous Instagram feed here. But while you’re at it, don’t just follow her – follow her lead. Take leaps, don’t stop, don’t give up.

 

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Lexy Ward, The Proper Blog

If I had to choose four job titles, Prop Stylist, Party Enthusiast, Blogger, and Craft Boss would definitely be at the top of my list! In fact, I would trade my one title for all four!

Lexy Ward, founder of The Proper Blog, lives those titles (and everything that comes with them) day in and day out. Throw in “mom” and “wife,” and, well…to say she’s a hard-worker would be an understatement. Dedicated and down-right-awesome are two other ways to describe her, as you’ll see from her responses below. Shortly after a major move, with an 18-month-old daughter and a blog that doesn’t skip a beat, she took the time to answer my ever-so-curious questions on how she achieved those four great titles and continues to creatively thrive.

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Take me back – how did you get into styling? Was it something that you’ve always had a passion for?

You know, I’ve always been a little OCD about how everything looked. Whether it is for photos, or my home, or office, or my wallet (I’m not even joking. Everything is meticulous.), I just want things to be aesthetically pleasing. I didn’t really start doing it full-time until I had been blogging for about two years. I just kept receiving more inquiries from brands and companies asking me to style photos around their product, and it just sort of took on a life of its own!

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Is prop styling something you went to school for? If not, what were your career plans before you decided to go this route?

I didn’t go to school for it, but I interned with a wedding planner and have amazing friends who work as professional prop stylists and just kind of learned from working with them and then honed my own aesthetic. My career plans were this: “Be the next Martha, okay, Lexy?” That was my second choice after I realized a career as a professional bass fishermen wasn’t going to pan out.

 In addition to being a prop stylist, you’re a party enthusiast and craft boss – best titles ever! How would you describe your job on a day-to-day basis?

Oh heavens! It’s all over the place. I work from home and have an 18-month-old daughter who is non-stop. I have a backbone of what each day looks like, but I move things around to cater to her so that I can be as present and in-the-moment as possible. I usually make and shoot projects during the day when the light is natural, ideal, and available. And then I tend to the administrative side of things when my daughter is in bed at night.

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While your job must be so much fun, you wouldn’t have such success without a lot of hard work. What would you say has been the biggest challenge in launching The Proper Blog?

Staying driven! Working from home is both a blessing and a trap. I have to make sure that I’m focused on my goals for PROPER and that I can meet them realistically. Even thought I’m no longer working in an office with a boss to hold me accountable, I don’t let that stop me from making this more than a 9-5 job.

What has been the biggest reward?

For me, it’s the connections that I’ve made. I feel so lucky to have my work featured both on and offline by large publications I’ve always admired. Some of my best friends have come from this job. While we only see each other in person a few times a year, we chat daily and have seen each other through pregnancies, weddings, divorces, and all the big and little triumphs of life. And we all work the same way so it’s refreshing to be able to have friends who truly know what your life is like.

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Your blog and your work inspires so many others (such as myself), but who or what inspires you?

Thank you so much! It’s always a surreal feeling when I see and read comments from others about my work. I will always be inspired by Chelsea Fuss of Frolic!. I have had a girl crush on her and everything she does for years. I also like to be outside as much as possible. I try to surround myself with happy flowers, happy food, and happy friends doing happy things. I like to flip through vintage magazines to see what was inspiring back then. I try to imagine ways to modernize those trends.

Do you ever struggle with the need to be constantly creative? If so, how do you get yourself out of a creative rut?

Oh gosh, yes! So much knowledge and information is at our fingertips thanks to social media. It’s hard to be creative and original 100% of the time, but I am trying my hardest to make what works for me work for me. If I find I’m stuck in a rut, I just quit what I’m doing and do something else. The best (and usually last-minute!) ideas come when you’re not thinking about them.

What advice would you give someone that wants to turn their passion into a career, but they don’t know where to start?

I think building an online portfolio is a great place to start. If you can’t justify charging for your work just yet, figure out a trade with someone in the same field. With everything be online these days, photography is very important – at least in my line of work! Beautiful photos speak for themselves, so find a way to improve yours by either hiring a photographer or learning the craft yourself. I take a lot of my own photos for my blog and I’m learning something new ALL the time.

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Lastly, as a party enthusiast, what are your top 3 tips to throwing a good party?

Oh man. I would say that food is my #1 priority. Even if everything else fails, if the food was good, that’s all the guests remember.

#2 – Cohesion. Make sure everything works. It doesn’t have to be a ridiculously over-the-top theme, but just have a general idea of what you want to do.

And my #3 – Find a way to make a memory! Have disposable cameras floating around. Or have someone illustrate your guests. Send pals home with something to remember that experience with. I am a hoarder and save all my non-perishable party and wedding favors. They eventually get used as props! 🙂

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I’ve read this interview over and over again simply to re-inspire myself and to ensure that I didn’t miss one bit of advice. When you visit The Proper Blog – whether on the blog directly, on Instagram, or on Facebook – those “meticulous” habits Lexy mentions are evident in the beautiful quality of her work (which is also bright, vibrant, and happy – a reflection of her personality, from what I can tell). Below are the key things that I’ve take away from my email interview with her.

– Be meticulous: Work until the quality of your content is up to YOUR standards. I often feel like I’m being too picky about a photo or a blog post, but I realize that there’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, the “pickier” I am about my work, the higher I set my standards, and the quality of my work will continue to get better. Don’t criticize yourself – just do your best, and be happy with it.

Prioritize and organize: We are all busy! However, if you really love what you do and want to succeed at it, you’ll find a way to make it work. Organize times when you can focus on a project, tend to personal needs, and manage the administrative duties of your business. Each day may be different depending on appointments or meetings, so take each day as they come. Prioritize each morning before setting out to tackle the day, and be willing to be flexible.

– Be accountable: When you’re your own boss, you’re the only one that can hold you to your own deadlines, so do it! The success of your business depends on it.

Be yourself: Lexy didn’t specifically address this, but I can tell that her brand is built very much around her personal characteristics and likes. What you create or do in your day to day should be a reflection of who you are and what you love, not what you think others will like or respond to. Your work will be better (and way more fun to create) when it genuinely comes from you.

Thank you, Lexy! Now off to implement those party tips!